Ready for Spring? A Reflection on Adjusting to Change

With Spring approaching, I have been reflecting on change, renewal, and fresh starts. This happens for me and many of my clients each year at this time. For many of us in the Midwest, Spring can bring a sense of increased motivation, renewal, hope, and improved mood. After months of cold, dark days, our bodies and minds begin to crave the predictable and desirable change of season. We know what to expect. We know we will move through the seasonal cycle as we have done many times before.

But what happens when change is unpredictable or undesired? We can become unsure, uneasy or even afraid of the unknown; especially when the unknown is tied to a great responsibility or high stakes. That unpredictability and uncertainty, if perceived as possible threat, loss, or failure, can activate our sympathetic nervous system and is precisely why even the idea of change might cause us to be anxious, avoid, or even freeze! 

In therapy speak, we call response to change “adjustment.” Adjustment is the reaction to, or adaptation made, to meet the changing demands or pressure of an environment and/or social expectations. We adjust best when we feel confident in the outcome; when we can predict that what lies ahead is desirable and good. 

If you are someone you care about is struggling to adjust to a life change such as a divorce, retirement, career change, health diagnosis, or grief/loss, Coriander Living Collective is here for support. Just reach out!