What’s One of the Greatest Gifts You Can Be Given?

It is to be brought into this world and parented by a present, attuned caregiver. This helps your nervous system develop a sense of safety, knowing your needs matter and will be met, and that people are to be trusted. It fosters a strong foundation from which to navigate the world, it builds internal resources that can be drawn from when times are tough or emotions are big.

Attachment theory is a growing field of psychology with implications for child development, parenting, careers, and intimate relationships. Our early relationship with our primary caregivers informs how we connect as adults with others.

Different attachment theories identify different types of attachment but three of the major ones are: Secure, Avoidant, and Anxious. The following Attachment Quiz and chart demonstrates some characteristics of these attachment styles. Please know we may all have attributes of each and may show up differently in different relationships or that over time our attachment preferences can change! Which is especially promising for those of us who were not blessed with attuned caregivers.

And know that even the best of parents don’t get it right all the time! The attachment science shows that in 70% of securely attached cases there is misattunement between what the child needs and how the parent responds, showing the repair is most important!

If you are curious to learn more about your attachment preferences and how they may be impacting your current relationships Coriander Living Collective is here to offer support. Just reach out!

As we approach this Thanksgiving Holiday Season, Coriander Living Collective wishes you to find a secure base from which to relate to others and the world. If you are a parent or thinking of parenting, may you learn about attachment and attune well!

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